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One huge priority in my marriage is making sure that my husband feels loved and special. Some days I do a better job of this then others, I’ll admit. Here’s some of what I do at three different parts of the day to remind him of how much I care and make him feel loved:
Make Him Feel Loved to Start Off the Day
My husband wakes up and leaves the house before I even leave bed most of the time, so I don’t get to make breakfast for him or talk about the day ahead. It’s probably a good thing, because neither one of us are morning people and as a result are more grumpy then talkative early in the morning.
Always Say Goodbye- We have our own morning routine of saying goodbye with three kisses right before he leaves the house. Even if I’m still asleep, I want to be woken up so I have the opportunity to say goodbye and have a cuddle and kiss before he leaves for the day.
Leave a Surprise- Prepping something to surprise him with the night before is a way to start off their day on the right foot. Things I’ve done in the past include leaving a trail of post-it notes for his birthday or picking up a special seasonal Kind bar for his breakfast. Here’s some other personalized gift ideas.
Last week I bought some window crayons for a different type of morning surprise. This last weekend my husband did a really good job of taking care of me while I wasn’t feeling great and I wanted to remind him how much that meant to me.
I used window crayons (or you can use window markers) for my masterpiece. They can be used on any glass surface, window, or mirror, so car windows and your home’s windows are fair game too. Leave them in a convenient place such as under the bathroom sink and you and your significant other can write notes back and forth to each other.
Make Him Feel Loved During the Day
Most likely you are apart from your significant other during the day like I am, but it doesn’t mean that you can’t infuse some fun and reminders of your love into their day.
Sneak a surprise into their lunch- I don’t make my husband’s lunch, but I can still sneak a snack or note into his lunch bag before he leaves for work the next day. Here are some fun options for you to try:
These “What I Love About You Today” notes are both silly and make brainstorming what to put in a note a snap.
And this mini-card kit is extra fun because you can include a secret scratch-off message.
Text Your Love- My husband has a pretty busy day at work, so he doesn’t have time for phone calls or long updates, which makes text messages the perfect way to communicate with him during the day. He has commented multiple times that my texts reminding me how much I love him and keeping him updated on how things are going for me are highlights of his day, especially on the really stressful ones.
Make Him Feel Loved at the End of the Day
It’s been a long day for both of you likely, so I’m not going to go all 1950’s housewife on you and suggest you are ready for his homecoming with his slippers and a gourmet meal. But there is one simple thing that you can and should be doing every single day that will make him feel loved.
Ask him about him- I always try to make a point of asking how my husband’s day went and taking time to ask questions about what he did during the day and the projects that he is working on. Admittedly, some of the tech speak goes over my head, but I really have a genuine interest in hearing about what happened over the course of his day. And I know him well enough now that I know when an answer calls for a little more probing. Listening to your significant other and showing an interest in what they are doing when they are away from you shows that you prioritize them and your relationship above all the other crazy stuff that happened during your day (although hopefully you are getting to spill all those details at some point as well). Here’s the perfect date to help learn more about your significant other without leaving the house.
What do you do for your significant other to make him feel loved?